Plenty to change my life. But help me here. If I have been unwilling to see his side, unwilling to compromise or listen in the past, unwilling to face my own shortcomings and now I am. How is that wrong? H's view that he expressed was that I acted like I never needed him and he didn't matter. Isn't ignoring him more of the same behavior. I do reply on my own time. Actually when I didn't reply to him right away a and only replied with ashort text he got panicky and texted that he wondered if I was still mad or hurt. I texted back " am running". He asked about good communication again and asked about coffee tomorrow and why I did not respond to fb friend requests. I said I would let him know tomorrow about coffee and that while good communication was fine I thought that our private lives should remain just that. Private
He then texted again about how I would find out anything relevant anyway from our circle of mutual friends anyway and that everyone talks to me but he is not getting quite the same reception. I did not answer here because this does not require me to answer.
I am doing a bunch of new activities. I do not make plans with him in mind. But I have always done what I wanted and that was part of our problem in the marriage. He knows I am strong and cAn do this on my own. Most of marriage has been ld. So what am I doing differently by ignoring him and or not seeing him?
While I am not expecting anything from his emails I for the first time got to see how he is thinking and why. That is valuable because I did not get defensive I did not Play the blame game I just validated his responses and tried to explain why I thought I acted that way. This has led to communication that we didn't even have in marriage.
I am protecting myself bug as much I can. Forest I really appreciate your comments and insight. I am going to let this sit look at my response and see where I could change the pattern. I need to get stuff out of my head before I can look at it lol
