"I was not ignoring you I was simply sorting through my emotions to see which were valid and which were reactionary. My valid emotion is please just ask. I realize this is difficult because communication has not been easy for me and every time you would ask I would shut you down, so you would simply stop asking. but it would go a long way if you could ask and I could respond. Maybe we can start fresh in the communication department."
What I am saying.. and what the other posters are trying to get you to "see" is that you are responding to the situation. Just as you have done in the past. Trying to start over communicating and asking him if he can.. is again just more of the same. DB'ing is about pulling yourself out of the stitch. I used to say use "No Emotion". You don't have to text him if you don't want to. Even if it was something that you did in the past (ignoring him). At this point everything you say/do/send should be thought out. There is no time constraint for you to respond. Think about it this way.. imagine that someone walking down the street handed you a piece of paper with his text/email on it. How would you respond? Would you include your personal thoughts in your response?
"13..... I am NOT twirling hair or giggling....have to draw line somewhere j/k"
Well I was more implying that at 13 you really had no idea how the whole relationship thing worked. That is why you sat there giggling and twirling your hair. You also would have not been likely to divulge personal ideas and thoughts. This were also a lot simpler. This is what you have to mimic per-say. Stop talking about how you feel. Treat this like a business arrangement with your cousin 3 times removed!!
DB'ing.. is about you. In becoming a excellent DB'r you up your chances of saving things. Db'ing is not about saving the marriage. It is a wonderful outcome of you doing something different.
This is a walk of you.. and who YOU want to be.
What are you doing to change your life right now?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
