My wife wants to separate

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But are we all sure that our W has chaos in her head? They sure seem to act calm and collected. I sometimes worry if I am helping her or enabling her R with OM. Some people would have thrown her out of the house and maybe the tough times would make her realize that yes, she was missing something in her marriage, but that it can be worked on, and that there are so many other good things in our relationship.

But I feel like having still in the house gives me an opportunity to work on things (with myself) and have her see that I am working on them. I bought the 5LL yesterday and I think she is going to stay with OM tonight so I will be reading it!

I need some help with goals. Since you all know my stitch, can you suggest a few goals?

Also, who has done a DB phone coach session? I have not yet because I wanted to have read as much as possible before hand but I am starting to feel like time is being lost and I need to schedule one. What are your thoughts?