Bomb drop 6 months ago. I was out of the house for 3 months at H's request. Came back 3 months ago. Sleeping in guest room. Things were bad, then awful, then better, then a lot better, now fair to bad again after starting MC a month ago.
After pretty much flailing for the past few months - trying many different things with varying degrees of success, I have finally reached a limit that I knew I would reach at some point. I've been very frustrated that H has refused to budge or even listen to me. The fact that we are in MC confuses me because he's not willing to work on the R at all, so I wonder why we go there.
I've decided that I am finally ready to dig deeper and try harder to put my own issues aside. I think my unmet needs are interfering with the goal at hand. I've been doing too much pursuing for one thing.
I've started to read a book called "Why Talking Isn't Enough: 8 Loving Actions that Will Transform Your Marriage." So far it seems like it takes the DB principles and makes them even more actionable. Plus it takes the focus off H or the R/M, which I need to do.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
