So D-day came and went. there was no fanfare. time didnt stop. pretty much a normal day i guess. ex is completely insane i have realized. was in court for 6.5 hrs because the agreement her, her L and i came to wasnt good enough when the judge came in to rule on it. i was going to pay her $4000 out of my 401k and let her have the tax return which is about $5000. she flipped out over her student loans and wanted to testify as to why she deserved it. it turned into her telling half truths and trying to drag me through the mud. i shut my mouth and endured it. then i was called to testify. her L tried to say that i spent money that i shouldnt on drugs and alcohol. that backfired as i was then able to say she shared equally in that use to which he had no rebuttal. then he tried to question my money still being spent on booze and my latest dui. didnt go good because im almost 18 months sober and can prove it!
So the judge went to chambers for about a half hour. then her L made a closing statement and I made mine. the result of all todays bs was this... 50/50 custody, $300 a month child support possibly( we go to a mediator for that, and she convieniently lost her job 3 weeks ago)reason for divorce is irreconcilable differences, we each claim one child and its up to us to figure out head of household, and i have to pay her $1000. not to bad considering i didnt have a L and she wanted $20000 for back payment. i wonder if she wishes she would have taken the $9000 i offered her...
oh well, stressful day is now over. i am officially divorced. i know that i tried everything i could and honestly looked at myself and made changes.. for the better. time to move on to my next chapter..
BRIT!!!!!!!!! hey you!! how are you.. long time, no talk.. i hope you are doin well!
