"Why do you say my way of dealing with the emotions are unhealthy?"
Based on the wall of text after that statement.. because you are reacting to something that was "taken away".
Why are you being clear now? He is gone.
Have you not said "this" before to him?
"Honest is right. I was honest, he has not been there yet."
So again.. you react with words and expect he will get it. Yet you have firmly said you two can't talk.
"For instance, we had flirty text and he wants to go for drinks, jokingly he said "drinks and I get to ask questions." I am okay with it, since this marriage has not been a communication festival. He absolutely reiterated he wants to develop friendship and not talk marriage. He said he is in a relationships and happy. My reply? Of course, that is what I had assumed you meant."
See you should have been more flirty back. Let me be clear that I am in no way saying you should continue on the path you are on.
I want you to look at the statement in quotes below and give me your thoughts..
"drinks and I get to ask questions."
Do you understand that he is not willing to have questions from you?
"He will want to ask questions about our past and how should I answer him?"
Treat it like a first date. You are 13 and you just met him.
"And this is why I have you to kick my a$$"
If you think this is me kicking you.. you have no idea what I am capable of.
You both are in the Spin Cycle. It is sad that you think only you are!
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
