Just perusing your thread because you stopped by mine for a piece of cake.
Sorry you find yourself in this sitch. Absolutely no fun. BUT this board is GREAT and can be a big help to you.
I am too new to offer too much advice.... but from what I've read, determining "MLC" or other crisis is best done by the LBS or perhaps a trained counselor. But MLC is not formally recognized as "real" so some counselors may give the idea little attention.
Regardless of the label, hang in there cause this is one wild ride.
IF it is MLC, beware too many relationship discussions. EVEN IF THE WAS/MLCer seems calm and lucid and rational. They can put on masks, make us think we're actually connecting, but we're not. Let HIM talk, keep your responses to a minimum.
Hope it gets easier for you!!
- Have to run.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
Absolutely no fun. BUT this board is GREAT and can be a big help to you.