Someone pushed the repeat button on my MLCer!

[hrm134]

Time for a new one..... here's the old one: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2286923&page=1

Well more odd behavior abounds! Yesterday was.... um.... interesting.... Out of the blue H decided to get drunk at 3:00pm on a Sunday. I mean granted everything the last 14 months has been odd, this I really didn't expect. IDK perhaps he's trying other things to stave off the depression that he swears he's not in.... It was odd to say the least. He was funny some of the time, but I was mostly concerned. He was laughing, quite a bit, and uncontrollably at points, which started just before the drinking.

We had been watching Supernatural and he decided mixing Sprite and vodka was a good plan..... he started making fun of the show, saying random stuff. I was sitting there looking at him, and asked what the occasion was. He said, "I'm free, white and over 21 I can drink in my house on a Sunday afternoon if I want to." I just said ok.....

I tried to watch the show, he kept interjecting his remarks. At one point he told me to stop judging him. I said, "I'm not judging you. I'm looking at you because at this point I don't know which is more amusing you or the show." I'm not going to take the time to type all of his shenanigans, but after he tripped over the coffee table I decided not to go to my friends 2 year old birthday party, I was worried he would hurt himself more severely.

I had to help him in and out of the bathtub, and put his socks back on for him. He eventually spent some time vomiting, which I can not remember him ever drinking so much he got sick! This is a man who rarely drank. He kept thanking me for taking care of him "nursing him" he said, and apologizing for "ruining my evening". The sad part is, during all of this he kinda looked like his old self and wasn't all weird with me.

This morning when I asked how he was feeling he was back to short, grumpy, distant answers... keeping me at arms length. He said he felt fine, but did thank me again and apologized again. I said something about making dinner tonight and he's still sticking with his don't go to any trouble for me line. Which hello I'm not I have to eat and I'm not eating everything I make, cooking for one just isn't that easy.

IDK WTH is going on..... perhaps me putting the tree skirt around the tree and our Christmas stockings out traumatized him. LOL His stocking is one I made for him before we were married so who knows.

RH~ No he won't be with me for Christmas, I'm more than 99.9% sure he will be at his mother's... after all the puppet master always gets what she wants...

[job]

hrm,
Too bad you didn't tape his antics. Then on a nice day, you could play them back for him to see just how pathetic he was. Maybe he should have fallen over the coffee table, i.e., it might have knocked some sense into him. (One can hope.)

I do think the holidays and the decorations go to him. The guilt of what they are doing and feeling really does eat them up, especially if they at home, listening to carols and looking at decorations.

I hope you had a better day today than yesterday.

[Kimmerz]

HRm,
Girl I gotta hand it to ya! You handle this man excellent. Such patience and acceptance of it all.

Good work!

[AJM]

LOL. It really is bizarre sometimes and you're left thinking, "I can't make this stuff up!" I remember my ex doing some really odd stuff at times. One was humming to herself so she wouldn't hear what was going on around her. Like a little kid putting her fingers in ears and screaming, "nah nah. I can't hear you" sort of thing.

It can be amusing and scary sometimes...

Peace,
AJ

[TSquared2]

Maybe H had to release the bad juju demons because the underwear gnomes were messing with his laundry?



You are such a saint, hrm!

T^2

[LoisB]

HRM,

Sounds like your H has done the complete regression, with the help of some booze, to infancy. Maybe he will let you change his diapers next time.

What a wonderful Christmas memory!!

Hang in,

Heather

[hrm134]

snodderly~I should have taped him for many reasons, yet another possible win for America's Funniest Home Videos, OR I could have created a youtube sensation!! LOL Yes, well I say, let the guilt run wild, he should feel darn guilty, I wonder if it ever gets old kicking someone who's ever so nice to you all the time?

Kimmerz~Hey stranger!! Thank you so much!! Well I have always been told how patient I am, this whole MLC thing really tests it though! I figure killing him with kindness is better than smothering him to death with his pillow! LOL

AJM~You hit the nail on the head! Amusing and scary.... strange mix! The memory lapse thing still gets me. Just the other day H said to me, I think I told you the local discount grocery store extended their hours through the week? I looked at him in disbelief for a second before saying, Um, I told you about that a couple of weeks ago.... Strange!!!

T~LMAO underwear gnomes!!! That's a VERY amusing mental pic!!! Perhaps I would randomly drink too if those crafty little bastards were messing with my underwear! I don't know about me being a saint, but I'll take the compliment, thank you!

LoisB~Ugh, changing his diaper, no thanks! lol Funny though, as I was putting his socks on for him I thought perhaps I shouldn't be in social work anymore, perhaps I should, I don't know,explore the option of geriatric care, I mean I getting enough practice with H! j/k I have no desire to work with the elderly.


The latest from Crazytown~ Well I'm pretty sure I pissed him off again, but I'm ok with that, I wanted to make it known I'm not stupid. Here's what happened. Monday evening I told H I didn't know what time I would be home the next evening due to a work meeting and then the gym. He said I'll be home late Thursday and Friday evening. I said ok, and then asked, "Not going to tell me what you are doing?" He actually didn't freak out on me for asking. He claims he has a work dinner Thursday and is shopping for gun parts Friday. I just said ok. I know for a fact his work Christmas party is Friday.

So I went back to the bedroom and pondered this for a few minutes, and texted my dear friend, because I really really felt the urge to make it known I know about the Christmas party.

Here's what I did. I walked back out to the kitchen where he was packing his lunch for the next day and ever so casually said, "Isn't your work Christmas party coming up? It's usually this weekend..." He stopped making his sandwich, looked up and said, "What?" I repeated. He said, "It's either this weekend or next weekend, I don't know, I'm not going. I'm not the party type (that's true, or was anyway)." I said something to the effect of, "That's good, after the vodka thing Sunday I wouldn't be a party person either." He didn't respond, just seemed SUPER annoyed. I asked, "What too soon to make a vodka joke?" He barked no at me. I said I was sorry for the joke and walked away.

Ever since Monday evening he has barely said two words to me, and I haven't started any conversations with him. I'm trying to keep my distance. Last night the only thing he said to me was, there was no mail today and I'm going to bed. I said ok, (I was making a cake at the time, another co-workers b-day),and I still have to make icing(yep peanut butter, I know you're wondering LOL), I hope that doesn't bother you. He said no, I said sleep well. This morning no c-ya or anything, and he knew I was up. I'm still in my whatever mode. I'm not the one doing anything wrong.

I don't know if he's telling the truth or not. I think he may be annoyed that I know and he thought he could pull one over on me. There is always the slim chance he is telling the truth because I know he is signed up to go to a match the next day, it starts I think 8ish, and it's kinda far away, so why in the world would you stay out late the night before?

I'm just not sure I buy the work dinner thing on Thursday night when the party is Friday night.... but then again I could see the company he works for doing something that stupid because they have a lot of money so if reps come in and aren't going to be there for the party they generally do dinners with them.

I'm leaning toward lie, because well, that's all he seems to do in this MLC, lie... and then lie about lying... I love(heavy sarcasm here)when he says, "Heather I've never lied to you." Yeah....ok.... riiiiight.... if I buy that will you tell me another one?

[wishing, hoping]

Oh yes. I know that line. "Why would you think I would lie to you?" or "Why can't you trust me?" or "I only have your best I interest at heart."

Boy they must think we just fell off the turnip truck.

[SunnyBurst]

Oh yes. I know that line. "Why would you think I would lie to you?" or "Why can't you trust me?" or "I only have your best I interest at heart."

Boy they must think we just fell off the turnip truck.

Gotta agree the CONSTANT lies just hit you like a 100 pound dumbell in the gut - I guess love CAN turn to hate - cuz I am feeling it turn right now -- I hate when I slip into anger after so many days of feeling great --

HRM - you are one strong person - God Bless you !!!

Sunny

[tadpole1025]

Like a little kid putting her fingers in ears and screaming, "nah nah. I can't hear you" sort of thing.

HAHAHAHA!!!!!! Nice AJ. Mine actually did this on a few occassions before she moved out!



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