Ruby, I only wanted to say that if you feel that the emails helped you, then you did the right thing.
I think it's good your H opened up to you. He shows he same behaviors of all WAS's--feeling bad about the situation, wishing you the best, wanting to be friends, etc.
The presence of the OW does not help. Sorry this is happening.
Now it's the time to think about the next step in this R. Do you want to be your H's friend? I'm going through a similar dilemma. Do you want to keep hoping your R can be saved and start a new M in the future? It's a decision. And the decision might change.
