TheUF - Changing gears - Dropping the rope?

[theUF]

ok just found, by accident, an alternative key to "submit" LOL.

Been thinking a bit.

Positives:
*** I'm finding myself less and less angry.
*** I'm taking more control over the business side of life(paperwork, arrangements etc) and being more decisive. At the end of our R I left alot more of that to her b/c I guessed it was nice for her to be able to decide, but I should have been involved a lot more.
*** More time off from work and more time with S, work is not "everything" anymore.
*** More tidy.
*** Less controlling. If she gets txt or sits on the computer, I let her be, I don't ask. If she talks about her activities etc, I stay away from "snooping-questions". More important, I'm not that affected by it.
*** As opposed to time after BD, she is now a lot more open, seems to enjoy our talks and company.
*** A couple weeks/months before BD I gave her a romantic gift. Since then she's moved, and now she has put the gift next to picture of S in her bedroom. Maybe positive, IDK. I for sure didn't expect to see it again, especially not there.

Negatives:
*** She is still short/blunt/ill-tempered on the phone, always has been to some extent.
*** Seems more content about her choice, than not.
*** Says she doesn't think I've changed.
*** Now I'm a bit detached, and I think that makes it easier to be less controlling less posessive. I need to keep those changes when I enter a new R(whoever it will be with). It will become a negative if I don't
*** Not as detached as I need to be.