WAW...finally asked her to leave

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Hi, AJM. I have regrets that I didnt' divorce bust sooner or at least stand up for myself. However, honestly, I needed to stop being selfish and prideful and thinking the world revolved around me. Once that was done it was moving to save my marriage which by then was even in more disrepair. So, no, I don't regret what's happening now. I do regret how it will hurt our children (S-19; D-23; D-24). Even though they are all adults now, they will still be affected by this. My W keeps telling me not to worry that everything is going to work out. She's called me more since she left last Friday then sheh has in quite some time. That's all fine and well, but as DBing goes only believe 50% of what you see and hear. I think it was the right move for her to 'get away' to figure things out as I am tired of living like we have been for the past 8+ years. It's now either him, me, or neither one of us. I will be fine (devastated, but..) if she doesn't choose me. I think I made a mistake by telling her this morning that I miss her. She is currently staying in a friends mom's empty house. We took a bed, heater, tv, her dresser, food, and other stuff over there last Thursday (8 Dec). She's been there since 9 Dec. So, she calls when she thinks of stuff she needs over there and if we do work things out we'll be moving into that place as its $1600 less a month. However, I have told her that when I move in there that it's just me and her.... so, if she's not over the OM then I'm not moving. Money is not the issue here it's her getting her head straight and if she can't honestly be true to me then I'm not moving and we'll have two places to pay for each month. Again, I don't care about the money but I do care about our marriage. Life is too short to continue to live like this so it's time to 'pee or get off the pot.' Sorry crude humor there.

Sorry for the long reply. Have a great day AJM