He's Just Not That Into You - The Sequel

[labug]

RLA, you so want to control the outcome of this and how your H responds to you, the tension is palpable in your posts. It's like I can see every muscle in your body tensing to change the direction of this off-course ship.

I recognize it because I was very much that way.

Let go.

What would happen if for a week or 2 or 3, instead of trying to tell H want you want/need you lived it. You become what you want H to be. Don't announce to him what you're doing, just do it.

He will either change over time or he won't.

And then you have decisions to make.

And about BK's post, it might have hit you wrong this morning but don't throw out the baby with the bathwater. We're mostly a bunch of controlling-fixers here and have wanted to be right rather than happy for most of our lives.

And that's how we landed here.

For me it's the things that get me thinking "I don't do that!" that carry the most truth.

There's nothing wrong with recognizing and working on that. Take what you can use and leave the rest, it's all offered to help, not hurt.