IT IS frustrating but since you have no control over it, what do you think is best to do?
Arson comes to mind yes, I know...detach, work on the only thing I CAN control, which is ME.
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why "ready to drop" your plans?
As a gesture of letting go of expectations, control? ie Saturday fun was a surprise to her, so I was prepped to gracefully not follow through. I offered to change plans when she mentioned office party, then again later when she felt anxiety at the club.
As for this week's plans, I wanted to go out for movie, as well, but backed off when she resisted.
Formerly I would tend to say "Here's what we're doing." Now I'm trying to tend toward, ""Here's my idea, what do you think?" trying to balance that with a certain amount of take charge and get things done.
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and know that any time on Christmas, spent with OM, will not necessarily be happy time.
It might be just the opposite.
Why didn't I think of that? Knowing her, and her value of this time, and what she's been saying...I'd say it's PROBABLY not happy time.
I proposed to her Christmas eve 1990, we married December 1991. Can't help but wonder what it will look like when she's ready to make a move. Will she just say "ready to move forward, come back," will she wait for me to ask?
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
yes, I know...detach, work on the only thing I CAN control, which is ME.