Is this the place for me?

[Cadet]

On "moderation", please explain.

Moderation means that when you post your the message goes into a queue and must wait for a moderator to approve the post before it comes out on the regular board.
Once you are APPROVED as a user then your posts will appear immediately.
In the bottom left hand corner are "Board Rules" which basically says not to post any outside links or use any contact information.

What you must do will seem very COUNTERINTUITIVE.

How do I find out what I "must" do?

First thing would be to read DR and maybe DB.
I might suggest that you learn as much as possible about relationships, marriage, and love as you would not want this to happen again in the future.

There is a wealth of information on this board and on the internet.
You are going to find it by reading, posting and learning.

Try the MLC forum for some really good links.(Find one of my welcome posts there)
I would suggest after DR and DB you read the five love languages by Gary Chapman.
Also find the thread on pursuit and distance, or read the book Solo Partner.

Is your ex wife in a relationship with someone else?

I am giving you lots of work to do.
One of the thintgs that I learned here is that I can either teach you how to fish, so you will never go hungry or I can give you a fish and then you will need another one tomorrow.
I would prefer you learn how to fish.