I understand what you are saying. I hope she will get the message from your h's disinterest. She's only trying to help, but doesn't really understand what you have been going through and continue to go through. Maybe the best way to handle the conversations is to just change the subject.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
