It has occurred to me that you would most probably want to ski with OW this winter. Myself, I would like it if you could not ski when the children are present. I think that it should be their time with you and not have to share it with anyone else. I realize that D is there both days except four race days, but I could take her to her races thereby freeing up some time for you to ski.
We are still legally married, even though we have separated and moved on. While I am happy for for, I do not think this sends the right message, at this point, to the kids, even though they also want you to be happy. If you and OW decide to move in together or become a very serious couple, of course the children will have to be introduced.
If you could keep your time with the kids just your time with the kids, I would really appreciate and I know the kids would too. D was saying how much time she gets to spend with you now and it has been the most time she has spent with you in her life.
I think this is a reasonable request, since you and OW can be together 6 out of 7 days during the weeks of the winter. You could also ski elsewhere in this area etc.
I would really appreciate it if you would think this over and get back to me with some thoughts on the matter.
I found out from a mutual friend , as I said, who the OW is. and while I am glad the H has found someone, it still hurts a lot to me. I seem to be a little more detached today, but the above email represents a boundary that I think the children need. Talked to S and he was speaking of moving in with H when S starts school. I said that you have to be prepared that your Dad will have a girlfriend. He said I have thought of that. I said good, but what if you don't like her? He said, "Then I will tell her". Sounds like his head is pretty firmly affixed. However, if he goes to live in city with H and H has girlfriend live in, I do not know how I feel about still being married and H living with someone else?
