An onion, dance lessons and a Harley II

[labug]

Soul Searching, that's very good advice.

I think our physical symptoms are caused by our resistance. For me once I was able to accept that my new reality, things got better.

I still have those down days (yesterday was one) but they are fewer and further between.

Meditation helps, really.

[needgrace]

dear sg,

i struggle with the same fears. i listen to the free audio talks on tara brach's website. she has a bunch of them and i will just put them on as i clean, drive, work. i also listened to cds by pema chodron for a long time. both pema and tara really calm me. i also do the meditations on tara's site. hope you find some peace.

[Soul.Searching]

Thanks Bug. How are you Subguy? How are your GAL activities going?

[subguy]

SS, I'm not so good today. My father had surgery to remove half of his left lung due to cancer. My W did not bother to call, text or check on my dad. This hurt and put me in a foul mood. I know I should detach more and not let her actions affect my attitude, it is difficult to do. It makes me wonder if I want to be a part of this relationship anymore

Am I wrong for feeling this way?????

Gal has been lacking as of late prolly part of my mood problems.

[subguy]

My Dad's surgery went well and the doctors are pleased with his progress so far.

[lostinscared]

Awwww SG, I'm so sorry. We learned last month that my dad was terminal and it's heartbreaking. I pray that your father recovers well and you all hear some good news soon. This is especially hard to deal with during a separation. I'm praying for you!

LIS

[Soul.Searching]

No, your not wrong for feeling that way. It's hard to understand how a WAS can not at least be there for things like that. My H left me at the worst possible time. Two deaths in the family, family pets being lost etc. He could call trying to get me to have sex with him and not even seem worried about what I was going through.

It hurt, I resented him for that. It's normal to have a whole range of emotions in a sitch like this.

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. I'm glad the surgery went well.

[JuneReN]

Hey Subguy, I am glad the surgery went well. I think sometimes WAS is so focused on themselves and so scared that any kind of caring will be misinterpreted that they go the other way a bit too far, you know?

[subguy]

Awwww SG, I'm so sorry. We learned last month that my dad was terminal and it's heartbreaking. I pray that your father recovers well and you all hear some good news soon. This is especially hard to deal with during a separation. I'm praying for you!

LIS

Ugh, I'm sorry to hear this. I'll pray for your family as well.

[tori2012]

Praying for your dad, Subguy. How is he doing?