LBS gearing up for the long haul

[25yearsmlc]

It's set for Saturday....tree trimming, dinner cooked by me, no movie. Crowds sometimes make her nervous right now and she doesn't want that in front of kids.

S20 and D17 may have work, but S16 is definitely in. He also likes to cook sometimes so hope we can make it a team effort.

Want to talk to her about Christmas...of course id love to spend whole time with her here.

see how this Saturday goes and try to let go of what YOU want...for now

And as long as I'm here I may as well say this: Pissed about probability that OM will buy my W gifts. And possibility she will buy him gifts. I know there is nothing I can do about it. But that's the definition of frustration.


IT IS frustrating but since you have no control over it, what do you think is best to do?

I want to take my W out on New Years Eve.

We know...that's what YOU want...

Weve always made it special. This has always been our prime "dating season" with holidays, anniversary together, then her birthday early January. I want all those dates...controlling? Expecting?need to cool it. Do i want those dates While I am pissed...more about the sitch than at her now, I THINK?

maybe you have your answers


So much positive to focus on. Stress comes when I think about these dates. I see them as key times to build upon progress...That's why I want to seize control of them.

Lose the ILLUSION you have, of control. Control YOU and work on YOU.



I need to work my self back into the frame of mind I had before anniversary date...hopeful, prepared, not expecting, ready to drop my plans.

why "ready to drop" your plans?


I know in her heart she WANTS to spend all of Xmas w/kids. What mom wouldn't? I want her to.

SIGH...we know what YOU WANT...but don't mind read. Ask her or invite her, or don't.


I think I'll offer to go to my brothers for part of the day a)to give her a break from me b)shes not ready to socialize w/my family, especially large scale.

This Saturday I am going to get her in a REALLY good mood and test the waters for the new year thing.

Control much?

Positives: everything between W and I for the past week, maybe more (considering...). The negatives are in my head.

back off and savor the good stuff. Focus on the positives. See how Saturday goes and then if it's all good, MAYBE invite her, at least for Christmas morning (or whatever is the most special time for your family)

and know that any time on Christmas, spent with OM, will not necessarily be happy time.

It might be just the opposite.