So a friend confirmed who H is "seeing". It is as I suspected. A separated mutual friends wife. We didn't know them very well but H and ow's H belonged to same organization. Funny thing is she is very active- running cyclist, etc surfs and H although has tired to keep in shape has never been his thing. I have always been pretty athletic and now he is running cycling etc.
Thoughts anyone? Funnily I am in an okay place. I believe he is getting what he needs from her and that is okay. I wish I had been able to but I couldn't and wouldn't. If I could rewind I would love more and bitch less. I would not make sex contingent on my emotional state all the time. I would communicate more.
I don't know how I will handle seeing her because she said to a mutual friend oh I guess we will be skiing together this season. Which means H will be with her at our hill with all our friends ( most of which are a little upset with him anyway) and our kids will be there and so will I Please grant me the ability to do this gracefully.
I may just be a little numb so if my next post is looking a little rollercoasterish you will all know why !
Kids and finances. That is all. Kids and finances. I have to remember he lies. A lot. So when I say he is welcome to come to movie with us and he says thanks we will see he could mean" no I am bringing ow to friends place out in country this weekend and cAnt come
What should I say about kids? S16 knows and says he is fine with it. D13 does not know and will know shortly because she is at hill every weekend. How do I deal with that?
