The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

Hi Sandi2,
Definitely the opposite of glee…it is sad. I have always, and I mean always had my W’s back when they were insolent with her. I have been told by both therapist a while back and by a counselor to back off now and let her deal with her relationship with them. It took me a while, but I stopped interfering about 3 months ago. And even a few times since expressed that is inappropriate behavior to either parent. I say nothing or leave the area when this happens. This is what I was counselled to do. It is painful. They love their mother, but it is obvious to them who the initiator is. She told the kids about the S/D on her own rather than together as was suggested to us to present a ‘united front’. They see her behaviour. Last night for example is how she would/does treat me. Instead of discussing she turns a cold shoulder and storms off. She is doing this to a 10 year old. She cannot deal with it. They also know she has not been around. She will spoil them with treats and material things to compensate, but that is not what they really want. So, no I would 100% say it is not glee. It is painful.
Hi Sandi2,
Definitely the opposite of glee…it is sad. I have always, and I mean always had my W’s back when they were insolent with her. I have been told by both therapist a while back and by a counselor to back off now and let her deal with her relationship with them. It took me a while, but I stopped interfering about 3 months ago. And even a few times since expressed that is inappropriate behavior to either parent. I say nothing or leave the area when this happens. This is what I was counselled to do. It is painful. They love their mother, but it is obvious to them who the initiator is. She told the kids about the S/D on her own rather than together as was suggested to us to present a ‘united front’. They see her behaviour. Last night for example is how she would/does treat me. Instead of discussing she turns a cold shoulder and storms off. She is doing this to a 10 year old. She cannot deal with it. They also know she has not been around. She will spoil them with treats and material things to compensate, but that is not what they really want. So, no I would 100% say it is not glee. It is painful.