Another Stander and Bond have said it all. TAKE IT IN....LISTEN...for emphasis, I'll repeat this...
TAKE THIS IN and PROCESS IT...listen like you've never listened before.
We know this hurts but that doesn't mean you turn off your head and ears and heart.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Well we did mention that the affair you had probably had affected her much worse than you thought. Although if she was unhappy, then an A was definitely the wrong way to go. Just as wrong as you blowing her off when you had the A.
IMHO, here's what you need to do. Continue to change for the better and concentrate on yourself and your kids. The next time she gets into you about her A, calmly tell her that you had apologized and are changing for the better. And that how she acts towards you is her decision. Then walk away.
It may be difficult but it is NOT complicated. Work this program. It's simple.
Start being more disciplined.
Work on you and remember that we told you the "EA" you had with OW was a big BIG deal...so was your weight gain. So was the way you two interacted and swept things under the rug (they were not under the rug, they were hurting her...and you were ignoring her pain).
Why does this change things for you? IF it's b/c you now think you are "right", and wanted an excuse to leave, then I don't know why you came HERE in the first place.
It's okay to feel hurt. We all would. But if you want to save this thing, you may be able to. She outlined some of the reasons for her A. While it isn't justifying it, it DOES tell you what she needs.
Why do you believe she told you all this, BUT DID NOT ask for a divorce?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
