my husband returns from the MIddle East tomorrow (his Reserve unit was deployed for several months).
I won't be posting as often or in such lengthy posts, but I will definitely check in.
Stay on track and on message. Don't stop your progress and listen to Bond and the other veterans. I speak from experience when I say you must put your ego aside.
Seeing the other point of view is crucial. I know I had justified so many things that I FELT were "right" of me. But when I realized my h had a totally different "lens" with which he viewed the world, and our marital history
I began to have more compassion for him and I stopped needing to be "right".
You can get there. Your son is THE priority now. I know you want your m reconciled but
I'm telling you that
establishing yourself as an involved father is crucial to two things --
1) it is crucial to you ever being close to him, for real, AND
2) it's crucial to how your wife views you (and her family, for that matter).
It may not lead to a reconciliation, but it is your best shot.
AND you can't lose by being a great dad.
Good luck.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
