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Now her mom clams they did all this to see that I get better as a husband. all the threats, the accusations and disrespect, the abuse, still she denies her daughter did any thing.


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Son - 2 yr day care
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Divorced- 10/10/13
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They have a right to think the way they do even if it may not be correct. You need to just tell them that while you appreciate their efforts in saving your M, this is a private matter between you and your W.

Get the custody of your son first and start being the MAN.


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Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
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]They have a right to think the way they do even if it may not be correct. You need to just tell them that while you appreciate their efforts in saving your M, this is a private matter between you and your W.
I agree we need to make things private but things got out of control and dark between us and I needed help as I lost trust in how my wife would react to normal things

Get the custody of your son first and start being the MAN.
what do you mean start being a man


M - 39W- 38
M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths
Son - 2 yr day care
S - 9/12
Divorced- 10/10/13
Visits with son other week
Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered








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"I needed help as I lost trust in how my wife would react to normal things "

You can't control how she is going to react to things. You just do what is best for you right now. That's includes doing the things a man does to protect his children.

Get expanded custody first. Plan for hostilities from your W or inlaws should they arise. When they give you a hard time, look at them for the crazy people they are and then move on.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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So she is not responding and we have our first court date next week, looks like she is still resentfull and doesnot want to negotiate


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Son - 2 yr day care
S - 9/12
Divorced- 10/10/13
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Then that's fine. You get your affairs in order. What did your L say?


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Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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To get you ducks in row and I will meet him this week.


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M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths
Son - 2 yr day care
S - 9/12
Divorced- 10/10/13
Visits with son other week
Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered








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I am journaling and also preparing for my court date, she hasn't responded nor tried to communicate. Will be meeting son in his Christmas day care party. Guys I am still out side and GAL. What else do I do


M - 39W- 38
M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths
Son - 2 yr day care
S - 9/12
Divorced- 10/10/13
Visits with son other week
Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered








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It was fun to be with son, he keeps saying, don't go to office daddy stay with me. I took pictures and he brings joy to my life, for rest of that week. Bruce or ladbug and mr bond, i am nervous about the court date


M - 39W- 38
M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths
Son - 2 yr day care
S - 9/12
Divorced- 10/10/13
Visits with son other week
Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered








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Do your best to stay calm and controlled. Control what YOU can control. You can do that.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER
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