Don't have time to respond to everything in your thoughtful post Cat.

This stuck out though:

Originally Posted By: cat04
What is your D learning about how she should expect to be treated.


That girl is mean as dirt lol. Its actually more my boys that would be a concern.

Not to pooh pooh the point you are making. I understand what you're saying.

More later.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.