So much of her recent communication seems to be her projecting onto me. It seems to correlate to when she can't clarify something. A few examples:
She said, "I feel like you have no friends." Meanwhile, I have a number of people I'm leaning on for support and she tells me the other night that she has nobody close to confide in and feels isolated.
She said, "you never go out for hikes." I responded that I'm certain I've done more hiking than she has since she left, and once again radio silence. I don't think its about me going for hikes, rather its about her comparing the reality of her life without me and her MLC fantasy life.
She has repeatedly said, "I've felt judged" in our relationship. When I asked for more clarity around that I got silence. Now I'm realizing that she probably feels judged because nobody is going to support the sort of decisions that she is making. Who would aside from the OM?
It seems like a lot of work for a LBS to pick apart what resonates as a true relationship flaw, what is MLC fantasy, what is projection, etc. This is particularly true when some of those things are hurtful and the initial reaction to them is knee jerk. Asking for "help understanding" what they are talking about seems to work well for both gaining a better understanding of where some of these things are coming from. ____________________________ Me:39 WAW:38, M:9 T:19, No Kids EA:9/24, S:9/24 EA on hold?, MC 9/30-now
