Hope here is a funny thing. Being very spiritual, I cannot overestimate the power of positive thinking… However, it’s a matter of where we put our energy.
When our spouses leave, their thinking is that there is no way they can ever be happy with us. And we come here often thinking that there is no way we can ever be happy without them. What so many of us fail to realize is that these thoughts are two sides of the same coin.
We hope they realize that they can be happy with us. But, more important, is that we need to get to a point where we realize that we can be happy without them. We really need to understand that we will be ok either way. And truly, it is one of the greatest gifts of this process. If he comes back after that, you are both in a much healthier position. Because both of you realize that you are ok either way, the awareness is that you have come back together because you WANT to be together. Out of that, you can both make a commitment to work. We tend to be a lot more motivated when we are doing what we WANT.
What I am trying to say, in a not too articulate way is, put your hope in YOU, your changes, your healing. I am praying for you.
