Was there any more context to the sex freedom woman comment? It's pretty unnecessarily harsh standing on its own.

It sounds like a major theme your IC is trying to get you to work through is to lose the hope, act as if your H is not coming back, and find yourself and your life satisfactory anyway. That is very DB.

The odds aren't good, but no percentages of other people will ever be really relevant to your own situation.

Whether you hope, or not, won't affect whether your H sees the light and comes home to try to repair what you had. All it will do is hurt you. Your IC isn't trying to hurt you but to help you focus on better things for you to focus on than the odds or not that H will come back. That's beyond your control right now.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.