My wife wants to separate

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Thank you for the input guys. No I am not ready to give up although it does seem she is super happy with this guy she has only been with for two weeks. Odds are against that relationship so I need to move quickly on bettering myself.

These are the things I think she always liked about me WHEN WE MET
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1) High sex drive, tenderness, showing her that I think she is beautiful, Thats a big one. She says I didnt do that enough or with enough passion and that ruined her self esteem.
2) Alot of confidence (which I have lost since my business is not doing as well as it used to)
3) Ambition (She thinks I lost the ambition because I don't push as hard in my business and sometimes I just go to work and come home without really achieving anything. Just spend time worrying about why its not doing well.
4) Fix things around the house AS SOON AS IT IS NEEDED
5) Work on our backyard to make it accessible for my daughter. Right now there is a koi pond that we need to fill in so she can go outside to play.

So these are the things that she will see immediately if I start working on them. I could also stand to work out and have some big arms like I did 14 years ago when we met. Since then I have lost that, and put on a little belly too.

I know that no one can really tell if she will ever want to come back to me, but i am trying to find some hope, some psychology poll or something that indicates that most WAW at least have a little bit of regret once they leave their family. Do we know this to be completely true? Right now I don't see her regretting the moves she is making at all. But I know that is a front and not believe anything she says and only half of what she does =). why is that so important anyway?

Also, how successful is a relationship where she has talked to the guy for 1 week prior to telling me, then two weeks since, and she is convinced this is her spouse for ever now. She talks about things that are many years from now like how my daughter will have a room at their place (the guy hasnt even found a job here yet, let alone moved). Could this be considered a rebound relationship or not so much since she probably wanted to leave a long time ago as my reading indicates.

As far as GAL it is difficult with our little daughter. But I need to start getting involved with things around town, just not sure what yet. Keep the ideas and comments coming! I am a beggineer and need some encouragement. I only found 3 success stories here on the forums when there seems to be hundreds of people fighting. Thats not very good odds.