then, WHAM, the roller coaster takes a plunge. Not sure what triggers it normally. This time though I feel it is because the interactions lately have been very warm between us. Makes me want to reach out with a "I miss you" or "Thinking of you."
It sounds to me like the roller coaster dip is due to your own expectations that things might be getting better but then you realize you're really in the same old holding pattern. I went through a lot of that myself. That's why detaching is so critical, because you have to release those expectations completely before you can move on.
The limbo, the not knowing, is what causes these highs and lows. It is completly normal.
Detatching will help with this. It helps us to take steps FORWARD not ON.
There really is a difference.
Moving forward, is simply living life to it's fullest.
Moving ON, is exactly what it implies, moving on, to a new life, a new relationship, being DONE with the marriage.
Eyes, I don't get the impression that you are ready or want to move on yet.
You can live though. Happily. Enjoy what is before you daily and look forward to the future and the wonderful things that are there.
Originally Posted By: eyes
I know we are not supposed to do any temperature checks, but I really want to know how see is feeling about me/us?
Temperature checks, when you are not ready to hear that they still haven't changed their position, do nothing but hurt you.
And they are viewed as pursuing behaviors.
Part of DB is protecting our emotions. So that we can heal and make decisions that come from a good and peaceful place within us. Instead of from dispair, frustration, or anger.
THAT is another reason that detatchment is so important.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
