He's Just Not That Into You - The Sequel

[mamabird]

Just had my first session w DB coach. He said I have done some good work and made good progress. He advised to go back to loving behavior but be ready for "testing." If the WAS starts to enjoy things again, they start to feel vulnerable and then they will push buttons (in my case, withdrawing) in order to "test". At that point I really have to do the 180s - and this is the super hard part.

Also said that WAS subscribe to two theories: 1) There is no mystery left - I know everything there is to know about my spouse 2) My spouse will never change.

Last night the TV wasn't working in my room and I asked H to help me with it, which he did very willingly. I was surprised - usually he's such a grump about those things. I thanked him for his help.