We had fun (I lost) and their stories were helpful but I got sad last evening and am trying to figure that out. I think it's because I deluded myself for many years about my H.
Now I'm seeing him more clearly and it's difficult. It's not that he's a bad person, he just is who he is, but I saw him as, and probably tried to make him into, my vision.
Needs more thought.
Bug,
While it is possible that your sadness is due to the fact that you wore rose colored glasses where your H was concerned.
I know that I have a sadness about that myself some days.
And I fight hard to not wear those same glasses in my current R. I want to see and love this man, flaws and all.
I also find that even though I hear and have seen many second marriages be long and fruitful, sometimes the thought of that also makes me sad. I think it is just a feeling that it is sad that it takes, in many instances, a lot of pain, heartbreak, and hard life lessons to find true happiness. And it makes me a little sad that my children and future grandchildren will probably have to endure pain in order to achieve happiness as well.
Just thought I would share. Hope you are having a good day.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
