Should I give up hope like everybody else wants me too?
This is one of the problems with discussing the situation with friends and family.
See, those people closest to us, don't want to see us hurting. They want us to do whatever it takes to become happy again.
Unfortunately, we live in a "throw away" society. Where divorce has become accepted and commonplace.
I would suggest minimizing talking to those closest to you about the details of what is going on and come here to post about it.
DBing, is a concept that is often misunderstood by people who aren't doing it.
Only you can decide when it is time to give up hope. Only you can decide when you are ready to say enough.
Now that doesn't mean don't take steps to protect yourself and your children. Do what needs to be done to protect your finances and your emotional health.
As far as the M goes, it will take time to see what is actually going to happen there.
You mentioned that your H said something is missing.
That is a common theme for WAS.
What were/are his complaints about you? What things do you feel that you want to change about your self? How were the family dynamics prior to his nervous breakdown?
Post often, you will be off of moderation soon if you aren't already.
There is no such thing as too many posts. LOL.
You will find incredible support here.
Welcome to the boards.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
