I am not a religious person but have found that I am somewhat "spritual" lately. Trying to seek a "higher power" to help me through this. I do pray. I pray every night that He will take away the sadness from my heart and the hurt and anger from my H heart and to give my D a solid foundation for her life. Its kind of long but I read it every night before I go to bed.
I'm glad a lot of moms are on the same page about DD not seeing OW. My D is only 5 and she still thinks daddy is coming home frown I don't want to crush her hope and I still have hope as well. But he hasn't called or contacted since friday (well he called Sunday night but D didn't want to talk to him) and D hasn't mentioned him at all in 4 days.
Me and H communicate mostly via email. He doesn't inquire about D its usually what time he should call or if he "should" stop by or come over. He doesn't ask how she is or anything, its sad. I feel very responsible but I'm trying not to. I've done excellent at no contact since friday but wish I could stop the obsessive thoughts about him. I'm trying the thought stopping technique in DR but I know it will take practice.