There is no need to rush things, if you want to get it right, that is. Keep that focus on you and your girls. He will have to decide if he wants to be part of that life you have created for yourselves.
I know how hard it is to be patient. I made all sorts of mistakes on my end. I begged, pleaded, cried and tried to guilt him to want his family. I suppose I just made it miserable to be home. However I will say he is none too happy that the 5 of us make a very close and happy family. He made his choice and I have made mine. I choose to have a happy life and I don't need a guy to do that.
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory