first time need help - still (new thread?)

[albamarie]

i findmyself on the very brink of wondring if I should be just taking the final step and getting right the heck out of my sitch

i think you should be doing everything possible for yourself, getting everything in order, and being prepared for life without H.

But, having said that I think it should be done for you, as a precaution, and also as moving on with your life "as if". Don't stay stagnant but don't do anything in the name of "backing away".

You sound like this is emotional instead of secure in your forward action. Lets face it you don't want H (as he is) maybe there's too much hurt to ever get past this anyway. We don't know...but we do know that YOU don't want to finalize your relationship, especially not in one fell swoop.

So, as much as you don't want him, is equally as much as you may. I still stick with do nothing about your R, let him go through his stages, as you are also going through your own phases. WE are not reactors, we are reliable, loving, steady girls, who don't really want everything to blow up in our face. DOn't pull a trigger your not prepared for.

I know were your at I told my H Sat. that I was moving out! Am I? I don't know! But, sorry to say, I am in a little more position to push h around, you have to be protective of what your H (BF) can do against you, especially since he is a L.

IN the end you want to be happy missy and your not getting it from him, but he's not uprooting you life so take advantage of this peaceful lull, this time you have to take care of the most important person around.

I can feel your pain in your writing, you will never be alone, we are here and you have friends, and crazy momma, a sister, and babies around you. DOn't ignore all that because of one persons absence. DOn't let him blind you to all you have!

oooxxx DM