My wife wants to separate

[Grocerykartman]

So OK an important question still has not been answered and I still cant figure it out for myself. How can I show her I am more attentive, affectionate, loving and ready to take care of her needs if I cannot touch her and she doesn't sleep in the same room as me?

Do NOT stress about this now. Any conscientious effort you make to show her these things now will almost certainly come across as too little too late in her eyes. Her mind is not just on the other man right now, she is just as much trying to escape from you than to be with him. And in most cases, the WAW wanted to esacpe a long time ago, they just didn't have anyone who they thought they could escape WITH. Now she has someone, so you finally got the bomb drop.

You have to behave counterintuitively. Nothing you conscientiously do, or even no small series of things you conscientiously do now will get her out of this mindset. Don't try to impress her right now. She doesn't want to be impressed by you now, all that will do is annoy her.

Just be a confident independent dude while you're living with her while being a great dad. Put your energy into that for now, and forget the rest. That's detaching.