Stuck between a hard place and the biggest rock.

[Big Bruce]

Hello all,
(25yearsmic, your last post had a gentle tone in it. I appreciate. Listen, I don't know why you help all this people on the site, me included, and I'd like to repay you back some day.)

I have come to terms with my trying to control others, if her father or both parents wants to act a certain way, I won't be affected by it. Honestly, they didn't show up at their daughters wedding, and I always have been kind and polite with them. Yesterday I gently insisted, but didn't make a scene either. I'm a very calm and balanced person. (outside of this site that is).

I learnt today they met with the pastor, and apparently "they've decided to move on". In the end, I feel more sad for them, probably taking sides when they shouldn't. Enough said.
From this day on, I'll appear relaxed and upbeat in their presence too.

As for your proposition of giving W a cell phone, I'm afraid it won't fly.

W sent an one line email today asking how the visit went yesterday. I replied with pics, and how enthusiastic I was to have spent time with S. I validated her concerns about his age and sensitive tummy, and that I paid a maximum of attention to it. And if because of the car rides and all which is time consuming, if the conceded two hour time alone with S could become longer afternoons. (I didn't stretch it to ask for the whole day).

Also said I understand this is new to her but I want to change his nappies, put him to sleep, read him a story, and if I could have him for an overnight as well. My goal was to spend more time with him.

(I won't ask in an email how to change a diaper b/c it sure will spring back in my face in court. Guaranteed.)

(btw, W knows my mom and dad, and doesn't like them much, so much for the good dad example...)

I got your point about my writing to her I want to spek, her not responding and then my being disappointed. I set my own expectations and disappointments. Silly.

Well, last week, it was the first time, and only visit without one of her parents. At the end, she wanted me to strike the famous deal. I took the bait on the spur of the moment. She acted super nice that day, and even days after that. Like she was in love again. Which made me go all over the place : by Xmas, we'll be holding hands and all.. A couple of days later, I said I wouldn't be giving up on my son, because I want to have him more, and that's why I paid the lawyer for in the first place. And the result is here, no more W in sight. Great.

I understand her resenting my asking for my son, when she has the impression I didn't care for him before, the truth is that she over-possessed him so much that it would have been heart-rending to separate mother and child. My contemplation of that beautiful scene has been mistakenly seen as indifference.
Now I'm only straightening things out.

And I'm not going to escape to France. (Although, you gave me a good idea. j/joking)

One last thing. I know I shouldn't ask her right away about if we can stop the petitions if we could arrange ourselves decent times with our son. But the proceedings are running as of now, and if we don't contact our lawyers, next week I understand I have to sign an affidavit, and then show up in Court... to have the immediate relief I've asked for (ie the famous 50% time with S).
Should I bring it up again tomorrow, or wait some more, but not too much?

Bonsoir,
yours, B.