Trying really hard to be Thankful today...

[Sweetbriar]

Accuray,

Thanks for your response and encouragement! I really needed it today and I appreciate you responding. It helps to have someone give you a clearer picture sometimes. I want to believe all that you say about the possible explosion that him and OW may have one day. Can this explosion happen if he he is "in love with her" and "she is a great friend?" I worry that they have become so emotionally close that he will be sad to ever leave her.

I also was starting to think that this 2nd job will be very time consuming and a neccessity for him to live on his own. Once he gets his own place, he will HAVE to work this job to make ends meet and I worry he wont be able to handle the stress. I guess that is his problem right now. The funny thing is, he used to work side jobs (he is in computers, so easy to find side web site work for good money) and he complained when he left that he worked full time and side jobs while I failed to get a full time job. Now, he will be working WAY more than he ever did when we were together...

I will continue to be brief if he contacts me any more. I must admit that I like hearing from him randomly, makes me know he thinks about me sometimes.

I was talking to a family member about this yesterday and she made the comment (she knows H very well) that she thinks that even IF he ever wanted to come home that he wouldnt know how to even ask. She thinks he is so ashamed of what he has done and how many people know we are apart now that he wouldn't bother...does this happen or do WAS's who really want to reconcile find a way to do it?

Thanks again for your input...it means a lot...

Sweetbriar