More to this: Remember, he lied about seeing someone else, and I do not know if he lied before we broke up. I hope not, but I suspect feelings for someone else were there. I have given him the option of sharing the house- we will have an extra room, but that doesn't interest him. So D13 is not his biggest concern, is only the concern when I am out of the picture totally-so I have to ask myself why? If he worked here, it would make absolute sense and even though it would kill me, me moving to city to complete my schooling would be the best solution. D would have someone here in morning and when she cam home (or shortly after).
But he doesn't live here, and he travels as well, so I do smell some ulterior motive and I do not know what. It may be monetary at this point. My thought is basically-you wanted this, you got it. I wanted differently.
Now, I need help in remaining non confrontational, non murderous and non scathing. Someone please channel Mother Theresa for me.
I also presented D13 with the options today. I hesitated because I didn't want it to feel like I was manipulating her.
I said 1) Status quo-although you will be alone a bit in morning and one hour at night. 2) Live with Dad in city- go to different school (that was a big no right away. Reason I am staying put is for D stability)
3) Dad lives here, Mum moves to city, but Mum cannot come back to house and you would see me weekends like Dad (H has said if he moves me out (!) I am out for good.I didn't tell her this though I phrased it like above)
She said that it had been me, her and S16 for all our lives and she is good with seeing Dad every second weekend. She gets to spend more time with him now than before split!!
I told her that that was my choice too and I didn't think I could move away from her. (S16 is off to school somewhere else)
I guess it is NC for me and will update come Friday as H is coming out to drop some stuff off. I hate this s#$t......
