So sorry you're here and that you're going through so much pain. The things you describe sound very much like MLC. MLC is not considered a medical condition, so it's not possible to "diagnose" it. But the things you describe about your H sure sound like MLC. I suggest you read through the MLC forums and look for Cadet's posts to new people, he has a whole bunch of links that he posts to every new person to help them and there is a ton of info in those links regarding how to determine if your spouse is in MLC and what to do about it.
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Is this MLC.? Has my husband just stopped loving me and will never love me again like he says? Is it his nervous breakdown? Should I give up hope like everybody else wants me too?
You'll learn more when reading about MLC, but it's possible that someday he will "emerge from the tunnel" and be more like the old H you remember. Unfortunately it takes a long, long time in the typical cases and few people want to wait that long while dealing with an irrational, angry, flaky spouse.
Originally Posted By: Itina
I am still just so confused. It is hard without answers. I feel like I have neglected my children in the last few months just trying to cope with my grief. Everybody I know wants me to move on and they don't even know about the OW.
Unfortunately confusion is the name of the game in MLC. You're not going to get answers or satisfaction. The only way you can survive it is to focus on you and your kids and detach yourself from his roller coaster ride.
Originally Posted By: Itina
Ok I know it is just the start for me. But I really don't think my husband has got any thoughts about coming home. Even deep down.
Probably not right now, but that can change, so don't focus too much on what he is saying or doing right now. You've got to give him time and space so he can sort through his thoughts.
