Back Again #3 GAL sister!

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So what is Melissa doing? I know everything about H but nothing about how Melissa is working on herself.

There's lot of mindreading in your post. Do you see it? I know it's sometimes comforting to try and figure out what's going on in our S head because it makes us feel better that it's all their problem.

The only problem with that is we can only hope to change ourselves. Constantly looking at them and making them the problem doesn't help us. I will admit, your H has problems mine did/does too but knowing that didn't really help me become a better person.

I had to do that work and continue to do it every day and it's not easy.

You can do this, Melissa. Tell me as much about what you're doing as you've written about H.