FWIW, I was discussing the impact of this on children with my MC. He had this to say: "In life, things do not always work out the way we had planned. However, despite what life throws at you, you can still have a wonderful, loving life if you choose to. What better lesson is there for a child than that?" (he said)
"You will not always get your way, things will not always unfold the way you want, but that does not diminish you, and that does not preclude your happiness. You will not always be 'like everyone else', but that doesn't mean your life is worse. When adversity hits you, you learn how to make the best of it, and if you can learn to do that for yourself, you will have a wonderful life."
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015