Nero, I agree w/T that mlcers do rewrite history in a way that is "helpful" to them to validate how they feel about the lbs. The question becomes is what what we are remembering live or memorex. I suspect for all of us it was "live" and we all had good marriages. Sure, we all had ups and downs and made mistakes, but life is about learning and learning from those mistakes. There's not one marriage out there that is perfect the first day right down to the last day of our lives. So, take what they say w/a grain of salt and reach back into our memory and know that you lived the same exact life and you know exactly what transpired. Had your marriage been horrible, I can bet he wouldn't have stayed as long as he has.
His feelings and good memories are stuffed down for now, but there will come a time when they will resurface, one at a time. Right now, he's in crisis and depression and that combination of emotions will rule his head, heart and soul for a while.
Turn you focus on to you and your family. Allow God to work on him for a while.
I'll check back in to see how you are doing a bit later.
Before Cadet or someone else pops over here, you need to start a new thread...you've exceeded the 100 postings.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
