Hi RegretfulLA, Just to clarify a couple points that may or may not matter...hope you or someone can give a thought on. When she cried and begged it was for the marriage and our family and said she did not want to wake up with anyone else everyday. She never actually begged for forgiveness.Last year around this time I was telling her I forgive her for the A but she replied 'I don't want your forgiveness'. I asked why and she said it didn't matter and she didn't deserve it'. I also did not push for MC...she really pushed me into it. But after a few sessions she struggled with it as it got into her emotions and faults and childhood. She really thought and still thinks it was me that needed fixing. She had trouble with it emotionally looking at herself.not even just about the A but all aspects. It freaked her out. Oddly I was responding to it and grasped it and bought into it for myself.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
