Last christmas about 1 week before I found out about OW#1, I had bought H for christmas some new cologne it was a fairly new fragrance by "Gucci" called "Guilty" (I swear it was a pure coincidence). I have often wondered how he must have felt when he opened that gift...probably thought "omg does she know" LOL
So saturday I went shopping to the mall and I went into a store to buy S17 and S13 some cologne...
Me: I'd like to buys some cologne for my sons.
Clerk: How old are they?
Me: 17 and 13, I want something that is not overpowering, something subtle.
Clerk: Well we have this really nice scent by Gucci called Guilty.
Me: I started laughing am sure she thought I was mental, and I said I bought that last year and we don't need the smell of guilt this year.
Funny thing is I never though I'd be able to laugh at the irony of it all, but I guess you just have to, to keep yourself sane.
About 2 months after BD S17 came home one day and H was wearing the cologne and S17 started sniffing the air and I said what are you doing he said "do I smell guilt" LMAO Maybe I'm laughing alone but its funny to me LOL
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
Caigy, that is very, very funny! I wonder if similar scenarios are in other homes with such a fragrance name!!
Here's a little scenario from some last night texting with my H:
He texted a pic of a new book he was reading and a frozen "island margarita" he was drinking:
H: I guess I'll get to bed soon. Thanks for chatting with me.
Me: It was enjoyable as always. Sleep well & sweet dreams (moon pic)
H: :)) same to you (baby pig face)
Me: What's that? A pig?
H: Mmhmmm. Just looked cute.
Me: P....I....G...PIG????
H: Lol! Exactly
Me: I wasn't upset you know ... Just thought that was a line from Animal House showing off my incredible repertoire of movie lines (which he has...not me!)
H: it is indeed ;D
Me: and yes the pig was very, very cute. Thank you. (baby whale pic)
H: Haha you're welcome
Me: nite nite
H: nite nite (Santa face)
Me: He wants to know if you've been naughty or nice....
H: Oh. I thought he already knew
Me: Haha!! So do I !!!
And I giggled all the way till I went to sleep pondering the naughtiness and niceness of my H!
Thanks for sharing your funny story, caigy!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
rh, lmao they are not right in the head and sometimes we have to humor them, although I don't have much interaction with my H now.
Something happened this summer and when I feel like this is it I'm telling him what a piece of crap he is getting the D quicker Iremember what happened, so here it is...
In June when he was still a little involved as a family, H and I took the two youngest to a park one saturday afternoon. H and S13 were fishing and D10 wanted to ride her bike around the park so I took her to do that. She was ahead of me but I could still see her, I got very emotional and I started talking to god and I said to him "god I need a sign whether I throw in the towel or fight for my marriage...but I need the sign to be plain as day so I dont miss it"
Later on we decided to go fishing by the lake and there was a few other people there also as we were on the dock. The park closes at 9pm so 8:45 we start packing up as did everyone else. I still had my pole in the water as H and the kids packed up, I felt this tap on my shoulder and this older woman was saying "excuse me mam" I said "hi" she said "I was walking up the bridge to my car and god told me to turn around come back and tell you to keep you're faith" I started crying and she hugged me and left.
Am I crazy for holding onto this thing that happened 6 months ago when things have became worse since then?
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
I agree w/Delboy...you got our sign. Unfortunately, the mlcer will try your patience and faith, but God does have a plan for each and everyone of us. We just have to allow him to do his work and be patient. God doesn't always give us what we ask for, but rather, gives us what we need.
You've received a very special message. God works in mysterious ways. Keep your heart, mind and soul open to new experiences and adventures.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I text one of my SIL the other day to get her dads DOB for a gift I'm having made for MIL for christmas, she text me the info I needed then text me "I really miss you" I said miss you too
Saturday morning H got the kids for the night, so saturday night I built a fire outside and my 2 GF's came over...and well we got so drunk (I really don't drink much) but damn I needed that, we laughed and sang to the christmas songs, I'm sure my neighbors thought I had finally lost it LOL I must say that I did not fixate on H all night and it felt great!
Last night D10 text me when they were on the way home, then H called me (first time in awhile) to ask if I had made a list on my computer as I always do about everything the kids got for christmas, I said yes, he saidcan you send it to me, I said no problem. It was a nice conversation not sarcastic at all. He even came into OUR house when he dropped them off!!! He's not done that in awhile.
My L sent me the response we sent to H lawyer about the marital greement and WOW my L held no punches at all, my BFF read it and she had to hold herself from peeing she laughed so hard. He was straight to the point and in the response he said My H's marital agreement proposal was "laughable at best" hahahahaha I love my lawyer!
It's getting easier every day to detach but I really do miss my friend.
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
Glad you had a good time w/your 2 GFs. It sounds like your h has settled down just a bit if he's requesting lists, etc. Maybe he's having some lucid moments and that's why he was able to come into your home.
As for your lawyer...he sounds like a good one. Good for him! It won't be long before his lawyer contacts him about the response and he'll be in a foul mood once again.
As you walk the path, detachment will get easier for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
What about it? He got the tattoo and your h made some comments to other people after he found out about it. It's not something I would worry about now because it's water under the bridge. If your son wants him to know about it, he will tell him...otherwise I wouldn't say one word about it to your h at this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks snodderly, i've not mentioned it to him and he's not mentioned it to me.
On christmas day it will be 4 years since my mum died, and its always very emotional for me, but right now I don't know how I feel. Every year H always quietly hugs me and says "I know today is hard for you honey, but your doing great" This year I doubt he'll even acknowledge it or even care.
Just had to get that out
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
(which he has...not me!) 