I'm sorry your boys didn't take it better. I had hoped they would based upon how things have been. H being robotic is disturbing, though. I'm tearing up just reading about the exchange. He should have been more affected. I understand people process differently, but still.
Hang in there. A day at a time. I'll be thinking and praying for you and the boys. And for your H, too, that he steps out of the fog.
