Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated

[sam4nh]

Thanks SA and Snodderly, I had already started to "cleanse" the house. I don't think she'd snoop, but during the MLC I can see that she would do things I would have never expected. I also have no control over who she allows in the house while I'm away and there is a very real possibility that someone else may may snoop.

I’m also struggling to figure out what to do for the holidays. Do I buy my W a gift or keep with the detachment (I’m not sure it’s really detachment since she’s not speaking to me at all) and leave her a simple gift under the tree or just leave a card? I’ve always bought her nice things that she’s wanted for Christmas. For the last few years she’s been quite vocal on what she wants for Christmas and the price doesn’t matter. She’s always said she has a hard time picking out anything for me. I always tried mentioning things that would be nice, but she seems to always “forget” those suggestions. So back to the original question, gift – no gift or just a simple well meaning (non pursuing) card?

Thanks!