Well today was my B-Day. I went for an annual Christmas tree cut with my daughters and to my brothers family to celebrate B-Day. This was an annual tradition started by my W 19 years ago with my sister-in-law. They were so close and they are so angry with her now. My W did not even look at me in the morning or when we got back. Not a peep, just an angry leer. Then she fought with my younger daughter who would not behave for her. My kids gave me so much love today. No, I have not been punishing her, but she sure has been punishing me. I suppose I did before (last year), but not looking at it as punishment, just to clear it up once and for all and it got so frustrating. Funny, on my side people have told me not to be the victim and not take her crap … the therapists that know of the A, and family and friends that don’t even know of the A. She was given clear direction from the pros (therapists and books, and manuals) on how to handle it, but she was fixed on doing it ‘her way’. I think you are right, but both of us did not grasp what we were doing to each other.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
