I am devastated. My husband had a nervous breakdown in July 2012. When this happened he cried and cried and said don't ever leave m, I couldn't survive without you. Since then I have been told I care about you, you are my best friend but I am not in love with you. Also he started an emotional affair that turned physical when he left home in October 2012. He claimed he was in love with this woman only for it to end six weeks later. Then he moved straight onto the lady he bought his Tupperware containers from. He has also been text messaging a third woman this whole time.
I know everybody out there says it. But this is totally out of his character. He was always the most devoted husband and father. He even used to tell other people how much he thought of me. Then overnight bam. Completely different person.
I look back and I guess there were signs. He was a little agitated at our children for simple things. He started having erectile dysfunction and this obviously affected our sex lives. I somehow got the blame for that. You know. If it wasn't working it was because he was no longer attracted to me.
When he first moved out he was talking about what he would do with our teenage boys. He has kept his promise and took them every second weekend. But if any conflict arises he drops them back.
He also when buying my sons things it's like he has forgotten who they are. A blanket that was for my 15 year old looks like something for a six year old. He also has been buying them food that they can't eat due to allergies. He has forgotten at I don't eat chocolate.
These women that he is trying to form a relationship with all have much younger children than ours. He is tired all the time and sore all the time.
I thought I was a good wife but now I fee lost. I have read enough to know it is not my problem but sometimes it feels that way.
Even though my husband has broken my heart I do not feel like hurting him. I do not think he is a bad man. He does not yell or scream or say this is my fault. The classic it's not you it's me. I see pain in his eyes.
What happened to my most beautiful kindest husband. It is like he doesn't realize he is causing me or our children pain. He thinks our teenagers aren't affected because of their age.
Is this MLC.? Has my husband just stopped loving me and will never love me again like he says? Is it his nervous breakdown? Should I give up hope like everybody else wants me too?
I have been trying to detach but I am not very good at it yet.
