AD, I know today was a very tough day. There is no doubt about it. But you and the kids will survive and very likely thrive now that the giant elephant in the room has finally been acknowledged.
My best advice having been through this exact same thing is to allow the news to settle in, assure the kids that they are loved, no matter what and then check in periodically to see how they are coping. Over time they will eventually open up and things will settle in to a new normal.
Hang in there AD. You will get past this difficult phase soon enough. ((((AD))))
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